Diana My Mother

Hello Everyone, I hope you had a good Christmas.

I watched the above (Diana My Mother) program last night.  Some of the footage I had seen before, some not.  

I sometimes feel a little sad when programs are made about people no longer here because it means we have to rely on those who are (here) and sometimes those here may not always show those departed in a good light...for various reasons.  i.e., jealousy, not wishing to look bad so pass the dark side of their nature over to someone else etc... basically justifying their own part in situations to excuse their own behaviour.

I would like to raise a few points on behalf of Diana.  Some of the points may have been raised before, some not.  

No... I never met her personally and yes she was human, just like the rest of us.  She also had something special about her (a good Soul, literally, wrapped in a human body)  which no one can deny...love her or not there was a side to her that absolutely shone with goodness.

In the program someone stated that photographs were taken of Diana hugging the boys and Charles did the same but those pictures were never shown...just a query this one...obviously someone was filming so why didn't they show it last night?  Just a query.

Diana is sometimes portrayed as a 'loose cannon' not my words at all.  All her friends, some 'so called' have given their take on the woman and so have those loyal to Charles but I've never actually heard anyone go into detail and truly explain why this woman was so unhappy... maybe (as  Diana found it difficult to trust anyone, she never truly opened up) no one bothered to look deep enough into her heart, too busy concentrating on the surface, so I am going to try and explain where I think she was coming from.

This is not about putting down Charles, or any member of the royal family...this is about understanding a woman who walked, naively, into a family with no real idea of what she was walking into.

To attain true insight into another, we must empathise with the person we are trying to understand. We must put ourselves in their shoes.

I am Diana and the future king has chosen me for his wife.  I feel honoured and special.  We are interviewed and asked if it is love...I reply 'Of course'!  The prince, my future husband, after a slight pause replies 'Whatever that means'.  I have a camera in my face and millions watching me so I must not falter, even though my heart sinks, I smile but don't realise.. my eyes gave me away.

I pass it off (gone too far now to back out) and go ahead with the marriage.  I have two sons and at some point I realise my husband loves another and is having an affair.  

Their is no one in this family I can turn to, I am expected to put up with it and do my duty.

I feel used and trapped.  I feel my husband has the best of both worlds...he has the love of his life, in private and his public wife (who the world thinks is the love of his life) keeping a stiff upper lip for the sake of the family.

I want out but there is no exit.  I become ill with the strain of living a lie.  I get to a point where I can't stand the humiliation anymore.  

I'd like to stop here for a moment.  For years the royal family and others (politicians, members of the clergy, aristocracy etc) have portrayed to the public a persona which keeps hidden their human side, their vulnerabilities.  

To be fair this is how it has always been...it is the culture, the tradition, passed down from generation to generation.  Just as it is with ordinary people and their culture and traditions.  Of course it wasn't right but it was the way it was.

Progress means changing what no longer works.  Diana's situation came around at a time when the world had changed much from previous generations.  Old traditions no longer worked in this new modern world.

Back to wearing Diana's shoes.  How would YOU have handled the situation?  This is how I would have felt and possibly Diana did too.

I put up with the situation until I can put up with it no more.  My state of mind goes from high to low.  I am angry, sad, hurt, humiliated.  I do not have a life at all.  I must get out and the only way I can see is to force a divorce.  I must fight to retain my dignity and I make mistakes (I cannot undo) but I am desperate, I am dying inside and I need to be free.

So the Princess does the only thing she can do, she gets the press on side (some of them anyway).  Again what would you do?  I think the only reason she put up with it for as long as she did was because of those boys.  Yes she was the future queen but don't forget she was human too.

To make a point of how difficult being a member of the royal family it was and with no disrespect to the queen...when Williams wife Kate stood by the queen showing off her wedding dress to the public, the queen said it looked awful.  I saw the same sad expression fall upon Kate's beautiful face that I had seen fall upon Diana's after Charles' remark about love.

When future monarchs are groomed for their role as king or queen, sadly the one thing they are groomed to suppress is their emotions and it appears sensitivity is not part of their development either.  This, you could say, is not their fault.  

Having someone enter your family with emotions which are displayed openly would be as unnerving for the royals as it would be for Diana to enter a family with emotions suppressed.

The point is Diana changed all that by developing her sons' sensitivity.  No bad thing at all.

I'm sure before Diana died she had regrets about many things...not least the way she handled her exit from the royal family...I'm sure the royals have regrets about how they handled it too.

Saying that she left a legacy of change within the royal family which is heartwarming, while opening a new pathway for her boys into a new world, where sensitivity is acceptable and their humanity can be seen by the rest of us.

Bless you Diana

Happy New Year William Kate and Harry.

Peace Love and Light to All

~ Naomi ~

 

 

 

Problem viewing older posts

Hi All, *smile*

I've just spent the last two hours updating and reformatting my previous posts and I noticed that... when I click on older posts my blog is redirecting to another site.  I am unable to rectify this at the moment but should you wish to view the older posts, please click on the 'Archives' tab on the bottom left and you should be able to read them.

I have been busy finishing the writing of a children's book.  Due to the difficulty of an unknown (aka me) not having a foot in the door (in a literary sense) I am attempting to publish it myself.  I have designed a cover, printed it, to get an idea if it would be possible to do it myself with limited means, and looking good so far. 

The book 'The Faerie Secret' is a full length novel for age six upwards and the characters progress into adults.

The book is full of humour, magic... a little sadness and characters which children and adults alike will come to adore.

Obviously, until it is in the public domain, I can't go into too much detail about content...don't want someone stealing my ideas *smile*

And...as I have to promote it myself and being the person that I am, if I didn't think it would appeal I wouldn't promote it.

Anyway, I am also working on publishing my own book of poetry and also I have ideas to start my own business online, health permitting, so intend to be quite busy.

Sorry I don't have much humour today, I have the flu so not feeling too good.

I hope soon to offer links to my work, once I am up and running.

Take care All

Peace Love Light and Laughter < could do with a little of that...might get rid of me flu quicker *smile*

~ Naomi ~

Absence

Hi People, I have so neglected this blog... to the point where the formatting has changed and messed up some of my earlier posts.  I can't correct them either... so anyone reading some past posts...I apologise for the messy state they are in.

Well... I guess I don't have to point out the state of things since my last post.  Changes which will affect everyone.

I've been posting on the Guardian a lot recently. Guess I should have remembered about my own blog! Anyway, I will choose a current topic (there sure is enough of them) and post within the coming week.

I'm still working on my book...although now it is a matter of editing, which hopefully I will have completed in the next two weeks.

If you happen by here...take care

Peace Love Light and Laughter

~ Naomi ~

How the Other Half Lives

Hi, I haven't posted for a while as I've been busy writing a children's story. I am about half way through *smile*.

I wanted to post today concerning the above title 'How the other half lives'.

This is a TV show, here in Brit land, aired on Monday nights. The theme concerns families who have established themselves financially and those of a poorer background where the better off family help the struggling family.

Whoever created the idea I think it's excellent! It does often show though how upside down and elitest our culture still remains.

The show featured last Monday night focused on a single mum with one child. She worked as a cashier and also volunteered for our Citizens Advice Bureau, even though she has a degree in law!

She spent eight struggling hard years working towards a Barrister standing, is extremely in debt, due to University fees and can not get work within the sector due to what we would call 'work experience'.

It appears it's the same old adage, no experience no job. Of course you have to persuade someone to give you the experience in the first place.

If I understood it properly it seems that, to be a fully realised Barrister, you have to work for a year within that environment. The fact that you have the qualifications apparently does not make any difference.

There is of course something that will go in your favour...if your father was a judge you have no problem entering into this elite system.

Elite is exactly what it is! Even the guy of the family with all the money and his connections couldn't swing it for this lady to get her foot in the door!

In the end (he became very frustrated) he gave this talented woman a job in his own firm. Hoping, because of the clients he deals with, that maybe she could get her foot in the back door if not the front!

It is often denied that there is a divide between rich and poor in this country yet I, like this woman, know different. The ironic thing is, it's not really about money as such. It's more about a snobbery that still exists between classes.

Top jobs are still (most often) given to those who were born into class, those who have worked their way up (without being biased) who probably found it harder to realise...due to finances...still wait outside in the cold.

I have found that the same divide is their within the creative writing genre. The same eliteness and snobbery exists with some (albeit always an exception) literary agencies.

The following could smack of ego but I'm going to say it anyway, mainly because I truly believe it.

There is a difference and yet a similarity between myself and the lady above.

Obviously you need to study law, which she did, to be able to practice it.
Of course how well she does with all that knowledge does depend, to a certain degree, on her own personality and whit to carry her to the top. Therefore, you could say that once in the position it is her inate capabilities that will take her to the top of her profession.

In creative writing, imho, this applies too. Of course you have the same elitism where for example you have a person who is already established in the media, maybe as a celebrity etc... they not only (in all cases I know of) have a far better chance but it is pretty much guaranteed that, should they wish to publish a book, it will be done! Whether or not they have natural artistic flare is another story! Don't forget the exception to every rule syndrom though *smile*

You then have someone with no educational background, in the literary sense, who has a flare for writing but the door is closed because they were not born within that elite social structure that acknowledges literary work!

You find that same eliteness in many of the creative arts, painting, photography etc...
We are told to work hard to accomplish your dreams and some people do realise them in other careers. Yet there are still areas that are elite and imho the walls need to come down.

Saying that the positive outcome, with regards to this post, concerns the financially secure family that are sponsoring the less well off family. I have watched a few of these documentary's and this one is the first that made me cry.
This man was genuinly uspet that the single mum could not find work. His wife and children showed real humility and kindness to that family and I found it utterly inspiring.

One more thing, though I think I may have missed a few of these programs, up to yet the sponsoring families created their own wealth, what I mean is they were not born into it. I've yet to see a wealthy (born) family take part in the series.

Peace Love Light and Laughter

~ Naomi ~

Happy New Year!

Hello and Happy New Year to all!

Guess I've not been around for a while...quite a while in fact!

I've been busy with other things...writing and stuff...plus my puter kind of died on me too!

Anyway, hope anyone who reads my blog is doing fine.

Before signing into this blog I tried to find a site on the net that was...shall we say free. What I mean is...I tried to find a site that offered (anyone interested in Spirituality) a forum a place to go to where you can debate or maybe ask questions that is free...I struggled. Of course they must be out there somewhere...its just trying to find a site that isn't interested in jumping on the band wagon and making a buck! My search continues!

Anyway friends...no words of wisdom today I'm afraid as I'm not feeling very wise at the moment at all lol.

Again Happy New Year to All...I'll check back again soon.

Peace Love Light and Laughter to you

~ Naomi ~

Absent

OOO Hi, hope all who read this are well *smile*...erm it seems I haven't checked in here for a while...see what happens when Wimbledon comes around lol. I was away before that...so there's three weeks gone! Well I will have to come back another day to update on this blog...wow time flies! Laters Peace Love Light and Laughter ~ Naomi ~

Honesty Scrap Award

Hi All...I've not been around for awhile...it's that old 'Life gets in the way' thing again *smile*.
I hope all who read this blog (how many erm oh yeah three lol) are well.

Marvin I just popped over to your blog to see what the heck it was lol. Apparently people...there are obligations when awarded the above...I'm to mention who awarded it to me...that be my friend Mr Marvin K Tumbo...then I have to write 10 things about myself...ooer! Let's see... 

1) My favourite pastime is thinking lol...as if that's telling you something new...and of course writing those thoughts down...very therapeutic! 

2) This is difficult...how I'd like to be and how I am may be two different things! Ok...I can often see both sides of things (not always but often) much to the irritation of many! 

3) I dislike injustice intensely...even for an enemy as justice needs to include everyone or it's not justice at all! Two wrongs don't make a right! Or...they do it so why shouldn't I? Isn't really a good excuse. If punishment is dished out...imho the motivation needs to be to make the person aware of what they have done...not as some kind of revenge...revenge always comes back to the sender anyway! 

4) I can honestly say...I could never be bought...my soul is mine and I aint selling it to anyone! lol 

5) I used to be quick tempered and still can be if I feel passionate enough about something though I can be patient...I surprise meself sometimes lol...but not with superiority anyone lording it over me...well I'll just lord it right back < very naughty *grin*

6) I don't have a problem saying what I think and I don't have a problem with others saying what they think...in fact I admire that kind of honesty! I am a bit of a softy though...in certain situations...as I have the ability to empathise with folk. Not sympathy...that be different...it's as if sometimes I can connect to and feel anothers pain.

7) I try my best to treat people as I wished to be treated (hey I have my off days too!) and don't have a problem seeing my faults...or everybody elses lol...sorry

8) Better mention my humour can't get by without it...and that's seriously!

9) I love sports...Football (the England team that about covers all the top clubs *grin*) Tennis, Olympics, Athletics etc...though not cricket and not golf.

10) My biggest fear is if I don't succeed in being the person I wish to be or a hypocrite...I would really not like that...so hope I am who I think I am. *smile* And no I aint no Saint...I make all the mistakes and errors that others make...I would like to think I'm aware of most of them so I can stop repeating them over and over!

So I'm now to award the Honesty Scrap Award to seven other bloggers...thing is I'm only following one blog at the moment lol...soo drum roll!!!!!!!!! Yeah it's...... Still Proud To Be Kenyan - What I read on this blog...Amazes me...Touches me...Humbles me...and makes me realise how lucky I am.

What impresses me the most though is how much Martin cares...he couldn't possibly write the things that he does... in the way that he does...if he didn't care.
As to you wanting to build an orphanage...Martin I hope that is a dream that you realise in your life.   

Peace Love Light and Laughter always ~ Naomi ~